Sunday, April 10, 2005

TOP TEN: Reasons why not to fall in love

10. Less room in the bed when he eventually moves in.

9. Chicks dig a man who's taken.

8. The perpetual worry over his level of commitment.

7. The perpetual worry over your level of commitment.

6. Other people's opinion over your relationship, regardless whether it's good or bad.

5. Those pesky nights when he's not around and you fully realize your dependency on him - either for his skill at killing spiders or for his ability to make you laugh.

4. Because how well do you really know him? Or anyone for that matter?

3. Even love is a painful thing, even it's the world's best relationship.

2. The scary thought that you might lose him, one way or another.

1. Losing him, one way or another.

Been through all of this. And I must say that love is the dumbest and most wonderful thing ever created in humans. There is no logic to it and apparently, people can live like this. I know I can withstand love's wrath. Hey, I'm here writing this fucking top ten list, aren't I?

The only thing I can't stand is feeling like I did something wrong. Why should I feel guilty for not ruining a relationship? Why should I have bad dreams about the man I'm still in love with, if I didn't do anything to deserve it? Not that he did anything wrong either. Maybe that's what I can't understand. Neither of us cheated, neither of us were dishonest. Shit! We're best friends! So how come we're not together? The simple answer is that he fell out of love with me.

I never would have thought that I could love so deeply as to outlast him.... I pity the next man who comes along for me.